Articolul ei din New York Times a prins peste 20 de milioane de hits, fiind probabil cel mai popular din istoria site-ului. Ce-a facut ea?
A facut un porn cu bonobo pe care l-a imbogatit cu sunete de cimpanzeu (bonobo nu prea scot sunete in timpul sexului fiindca ar ragusi, au sex aproape incontinuu; femelele ciripesc, but that’s weird to humans).
A aratat apoi porn-ul barbatilor, femeilor, transsexualilor, homosexualilor etc si a descoperit ca in timp ce barbatii (inclusiv trannies) au un raspuns sexual oarecum paralel cu orientarea sexuala declarata, femeile au un raspuns sexual universal – adica ele se umezesc indiferent cine si cum are sex pe ecran. Dar, zice Chivers, daca o femeie se umezeste nu-nseamna neaparat ca si vrea. Vorba Madonnei din ‘95:
Long stem roses are the way to your heart
But he needs to start with your head
In sumar:
- orientarea sexuala feminina este mult mai fluida si flexibila decat cea masculina
- corpul poate fi-ncalzit fara minte, care ramane in urma (sau mintea minte?)
- i-a fost mai usor sa arate porn cu bonobo in Canada decat in State
Daca te pasioneaza subiectul, am adaugat 3 carti la sfarsit. Prima are de-a face cu ce zice Shivers, si chiar contine un interviu cu ea, pe care-l poti gasi linked in more info. A doua se refera la G-spot si este cartea care a prezentat in anii ‘80 cercetarea care stabilea prezenta punctului G – a luat doctorilor si oamenilor de stiinta vreo decada sa accepte aceste rezultate. Au aparut de-atunci o gramada de carti pe acest subiect, dar fara practic sa aduca nimic nou. Cartea originala ramane cele mai bune 2h (cam atat ia s-o citesti) pe care le poti petrece pentru a-ntelege mai bine tehnologia orgasmului feminin. Ramane desigur si partea spirituala. Ethical Slut este o carte scrisa de femei pentru femei, in sprijinul ideii de polyamorie (adiga iubirii sexuale pentru mai mult decat un partener). Despre asta, mai pe larg, cu alta ocazie. Pana atunci, merita mentionata comuna mai mult sau mai putin primitiva din New York, unde cam 38 de femei si barbati in jur de 20 de ani traiesc impreuna adunati in preamarirea orgasmului feminin, practicarii yoga si mindfulness meditation.
Am decis sa adaug si cantecul Madonnei impreuna cu cuvintele dedesubt, si-apoi am mai adaugat cateva clip-uri despre sexualitatea feminina la sfarsit.
Express Yourself
[Spoken:]
Come on girls
Do you believe in love?
'Cause I got something to say about it
And it goes something like this
[Chorus:]
Don't go for second best baby
Put your love to the test
You know, you know, you've got to
Make him express how he feels
And maybe then you'll know your love is real
You don't need diamond rings
Or eighteen karat gold
Fancy cars that go very fast
You know they never last, no, no
What you need is a big strong hand
To lift you to your higher ground
Make you feel like a queen on a throne
Make him love you till you can't come down
(You'll never come down)
[chorus]
Long stem roses are the way to your heart
But he needs to start with your head
Satin sheets are very romantic
What happens when you're not in bed
You deserve the best in life
So if the time isn't right then move on
Second best is never enough
You'll do much better baby on your own
(Baby on your own)
[chorus]
Express yourself
(You've got to make him)
Express himself
Hey, hey, hey, hey
So if you want it right now, make him show you how
Express what he's got, oh baby ready or not
[Intermediate:]
And when you're gone he might regret it
Think about the love he once had
Try to carry on, but he just won't get it
He'll be back on his knees
To express himself
(You've got to make him)
Express himself
Hey hey
What you need is a big strong hand
To lift you to your higher ground
Make you feel like a queen on a throne
Make him love you till you can't come down
(You'll never come down)
[intermediate]
So please
[chorus]
Express yourself
(You've got to make him)
Express himself
Hey, hey, hey, hey
So if you want it right now, make him show you how
Express what he's got, oh baby ready or not
Express yourself
(You've got to make him)
So you can respect yourself
Hey, hey
So if you want it right now, then make him show you how
Express what he's got, oh baby ready or not
Surse / More info: NYT, The psychophysiology of sex, bbc-testotsterone, bbc-chemistry, PleasurePrinciple, yt
 The Psycho-physiology of Sex: Erick Janssen: Books ISBN: 0253348986 ISBN-13: 9780253348982 |  The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality: Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple, John D. Perry: Books ISBN: 0440130409 ISBN-13: 9780440130406 |  Ethical Slut 2nd Ed: Dossie Easton: Books ISBN: 1587613379 ISBN-13: 9781587613371 |
E cunoscut la nivel anecdotic de ceva vreme :)
ReplyDeleteevident, ca din cei 20 de milioane vreo 2-3 (mil) sunt convins c-au fost romani :)
ReplyDeletemotivul articolului este insa interviul, care se asculta in mult mai putin timp decat citirea articolului.
d'acolo ti-a venit ideea cu "indelible bonobo"?
ReplyDeleteps. astept articolul despre poliamorie :)
pai cred ca ei i-a venit ideea de la mine, dat fiind ca eu eram indelible bonobo inainte de research-ul ei. da' eu am iertat-o, ca-i fata buna.
ReplyDeletecat despre articolul despre polyamory, s-ar putea sa mai dureze..
Aha, amu înțeleg eu anumite chestii.. Nț, nț...
ReplyDeleteDeloc flatant pentru femei insa e interesant de dezbatut raportul calduri\afisarea caldurilor la nivel general.
ReplyDeleteNu vad de ce ar fi neflatant (demeaning?). Lubricarea poate fi, cum zice si Madam Chivers, o reactie de protejare a tesuturilor cu pricina (biologic / evolutionist vorbind). Restul poate fi explicat prin societal control si learned behaviours.
ReplyDeleteDaca teoria aia cu reactia de protectie ar duce apa, atunci femeile speriate s-ar umezi. In fapt constatam experimental ca ele se usuca, si deci, nu.
ReplyDeleteMulte femei se umezesc daca nu imediat inaintea unui viol, cel putin in timpul lui.. Ce experimente ai facut tu? (Share wid da world!) :)
ReplyDeleteAm citit, m-am aplecat serios asupra subiectului, am notat, sunt mai informata. Acum trebuie sa dau si mai departe?
ReplyDeleteAmu, dai mai departe numai daca simti in adancul.. ummm.. inimii tale..
ReplyDelete3 comentarii consecutive fara nici o legatura cu articolul:
ReplyDeleteFor you, there are not many implications. If they pay you as a W-2 employee, they would be subject to US rules assuming that you're doing your work in the US.
07 iulie 2009 10:59
I am an american citizen married to a canadien citizen and we are now both living in California. We have two kids that were born in California. How do I go about applying to get residency for canada while living in the United States?
07 iulie 2009 11:01
im doing a social studies project and i need a book writen by a canadien author that somehow represents canada ? it doesnt have to be a novel, it can be a picture book, but please nothing to hard this is only a grade 8 project.
07 iulie 2009 11:02
: au fost sterse http://bit.ly/37E0RL