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Meditam la chestia asta cu indragostitu' si simptomele aferente. Si cum nu vreau sa am cititori bolnavi, m-am gandit sa le pun atat pentru publicul pudic cat si pentru publicul pubic. Iata deci 10 semne de dragoste care ar putea fi de fapt simptome de boala fatala pe care i le dedic lu' Bogdan, un pretin medic, fost coleg de shkuala.

Un subset important pentru mine al tehnomaliilor sunt blognomaliile. O blognomalie este si ea o anomalie de ordin tehnic, dar mai personala, in sensul ca are de-a face cu tine si-o platforma de blog pe care publici. In cazul meu, tine devine mine. Care sunt eu. Si vorbesc despre un individ care ma asasineaza cu spam irelevant despre Zamolxis.

O prietena a pus pe feisbuc o poza cu fetita ei. Ieri am avut o chiriasa prospectiva care m-a scos din sarite, cu copil, si-ncerc sa conectez cumva cele doua evenimente, intrucat reactiile mele sunt moderate de acelasi filon de ganduri.

Am avut un New Year’s Eve (NYE) interesant. Am fost in mai multe locuri, am cunoscut mai multi oameni in mai multe feluri, si-am incheiat cu micul dejun intr-o spelunca cu specific cajun, unde-am baut un iced tea de mi-a scos fluturasii din stomac si mi i-a lipit pi cap. Si-mi listez si rezolutiile, da-s cifrate.

I thought long and hard about a subject for the international day of philosophy and came up with two. They've been on my mind for a while, actually, and have to do with security theatre and cheating.

Constat cu uimire ca exista oameni care stiu sa citeasca, stiu sa scrie, au acces la Internet, dar nu inteleg ca intre felatie si cunnilingus, sau intre giving head si eating someone e o diferenta. Sa gustam diferenta!

Pe Karl il aveam intr-o vreme in Blogroll si el pe mine. Apoi el a divortat unilateral. Dar eu continui sa-l citesc si azi am decis chiar sa-l citez.

The way I experience love, or at least what most people mean by it, is dumb and I haze it. I get jealous, obsessive, cheesy. This kind of love is not enjoyable for me, likely not for the other and I try to avoid it, yet this is the kind most girls I had dated in the past seemed to want.

As expected, we owe most of our understanding of love to the Greeks, who were collecting words to describe it. Some scholars prefer to talk about four kinds, others five, others seven and some go as high as thirty. Here are the most used Greek terms:

• Storge (family affection)
• Philia (brotherly love, co-workers, soldiers, shared goal)
• Eros (romance, passion, desire, sex, physical, strange)
• Agape (god-love – unconditional, self-sacrificing)
• Ludus (flirting, playful, euphoria, uncommitted, non-punctual, believable lies, lovefool)
• Pragma (mutually beneficial, enduring – e.g., marriage)
• Mania (obsessive or possessive; adolescence)
• Philautia (self-respect)

Hendrick^2 & Slapion-Foote^2 (1985) found (hsf-gdisa) that men were more likely to show the ludic type of love, while women were more likely to be storgic or pragmatic – though their research was done on undergrad students.

Purple haze all in my brain
Lately things don't seem the same
Actin' funny but I don't know why
'Scuse me while I kiss the sky

In his 1973 book (.CA, .UK, .FR, .DE, .IT, .ES), John Lee compared styles of love to the color wheel, basing them on the aforementioned Greek words.

Lee’s 6 Styles of Loving

• Three primary styles:
  1. Eros – Loving an ideal person
  2. Ludos – Love as a game
  3. Storge – Love as friendship
• Three secondary styles:
  1. Mania (Eros + Ludos) – Obsessive love
  2. Pragma (Ludos + Storge) – Realistic and practical love
  3. Agape (Eros + Storge) – Selfless love

Now that we have the basic vocabulary, we should also know that there are a few theories of love.

theories

In general, theories moved from a clinical standpoint to a more psychology and socially-based stance.

• Freud’s theory of love centered around the need for an “ego ideal”, which is the person one aspires to be, patterned after those whom one holds in great respect. (On Narcissism, Bourdieu-Lacan, Freud-Lacan)
• Maslow takes the view that only those at the top of his pyramid (self-actualized) are capable of love (Heylighen, Francis). 
• Reik conceptualized a more altruistic, agape type of love in Being love. (Amir, Mathes)
• Zick Rubin proposed that romantic love is based on three elements: attachment (the need to receive care, approval and physical contact), caring (valuing the other person’s needs and happiness as much as your own), intimacy (sharing of thoughts, desires etc). Based on questionnaires, he determined liking vs loving.
• Elaine Hatfield felt that compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection and trust while passionate love is made of intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety and affection. According to her, passionate love is transitory, lasting 6-30 months and it arises when cultural expectations encourage falling in love, when the person meets your preconceived ideas of an ideal love, and when you experience heightened physiological arousal in the presence of the other person. It ideally leads to compassionate love.
• As psychology became more socially based, Sternberg’s (.CA, .UK, .FR, .DE, .IT, .ES) triangular theory of love emerged (not to be confused with Bizarre Love Triangle) and became dominant (w-triang). This theory, illustrated above, holds that “consummate love” is the most complete, as it involves Intimacy, Passion and Commitment. The other types of love involve a combination of only 2 or just one.

The Attachment Theory (w-att) is very important in psychology and it deals with patterns learned in early childhood and how they determine people’s response within relationships when hurt, separated from loved ones or perceiving a threat. Four different attachment classifications have been identified in children: secure attachment, anxious-ambivalent attachment, anxious-avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment.

If you can imagine the central point of the triangular theory – consummate love – being elevated (through the power of love, of course) out of its planar complacency to a pyramidal vertex and what do you get? Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, of course! :)

Purple haze all around
Don't know if I'm comin' up or down
Am I happy or in misery?
Whatever it is, that girl put a spell on me

Purple haze is not to be confused with Purple Rain.

LE: Two things: I know about the "languages of love" and I think it's BS - the main idea being that most women prefer "words", while men, actions, so there goes that "theory" and secondly, Hendrix probably talks about love as an excuse for getting high with "illegal dreams" which is not my thing.

Sources / More info: inbo-jealous, w-4l, w-gw4l, w-triang, w-att, w-rolo, w-losty, hsf-gdisa

poate nu stiti, dar omul cu par mult si iconoclast care fie a luat-o pe-o scara catre cer sau este acum tors si facut covoare ne-a zis intr-o poezie despre boc ce va sa vie..

Incepusem a grai despre asa-numitul Joseph Campbell. Ne apropiem de deznodamant.

Am decis sa public o scrisoare primita in urma cu 10 ani si 3 luni. Este fix genul de scrisoare pe care nu as putea-o publica in intregime pe acest blog, intrucat nu intentionez s-o supun discutiei. The unencrypted introduction is probably self-explanatory as to why encryption must be used for the rest of it.

Trisez. Scriu articolul cu 3 zile intarziere. Dar atatea s-au intamplat in acest rastimp, c-as putea face un blog numai cu asta. Prefer insa sa pastrez aceasta posibilitate in taramul teoriei.