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It has recently come to my attention that today is St Andrew's day and also Scotland National Day. Tomorrow is Romania's. Or, since it’s unlikely I’ll finish this article and publish it today, subtract one day from all the temporal adverbs above. We will also learn here who put the ‘X’ in XXX.

Intr-un articol scurt, Adrian Ciubotaru descrie situatia coliviei (colivia filozofica). Eu imi amintesc de o analogie des-intalnita in SF. Si de bunicul meu.

Ieri am inchis furnace-ul si-asta inseamna ca temperatura va mai scade din cand in cand sub 21 C, in special noaptea. Azi m-am trezit la 4:44 am, pe 19 C si culmea, mi-am amintit si ce visam.

De ziua tatilor, m-am gandit sa fac o lista de clipuri muzicale cu, despre, de si pentru tati. Ar fi indicat sa incep poate cu melodia Timpuri Noi, dar l-am pus cand abia aparuse intr-un articol separat...

Being a dreamer has its perks, such as happiness and fun. Making money first is a tad more difficult, but it results in a better match, later on, with the aforementioned two desiderates. And since one of the most important conferences for entrepreneurs and business people will take place December 10-11, it's worth taking a look at who we'd like to see there.

I recently read a longer article on Bloomberg about Romania and its lagging infrastructure - more specifically, roads and highways. Much to my surprise, all that I was reading on other blogs (or hearing from my relatives) was described and explained as facts. (blmbrg-cows) 

Am intrat mai demult intr-o conversatie cu Khristine pe forumul bloggerilor (fb) despre cititul unei carti. Eu am zis ca n-am citit-o, tocmai pentru ca raspunsul universal la intrebarea cu pricina este "desigur". Iata ca un sondaj recent (Rtrs), publicat de ziua mondiala a cartii, pe 5 Martie imi confirma impresiile.

After checking out similarly ranked blogs of blogspot persuasion, we're moving on to the Wordpress section of our latest "spazier".

Astazi incepe Festivalul International al Filmului din Toronto si eu inca n-am apucat sa decid ce filme vreau sa vad. Dar, in traditia expertilor de internet, va voi spune ce filme vor altii sa vada.

N-am gangurit demult pe seama intamplarilor de-aici, si s-or adunatara multe, asa ca-mi voi da drumu’. Roman cardar, Rosia Montana Redivivus, tiganii Obama, capsunari lefteri, criza care inca nu se simte pe bune, indienii ne invadeaza, online boom, crime si prostii si-n final, festivalul filmului romanesc in Toronto. Ready or not, here I cum!

Ca si anul trecut sau 2009, Zamolxis iti aduce primul premiile Darwin abia anuntate, spre delectare si evitare. Premiile Darwin comemoreaza pe cei care, in mod involuntar, imbogatesc calitatea fondului genetic universal prin autoeliminare.

Am vazut recent pe blogul Simonei Tache o invitatie catre mini-bloggeri de a povesti despre bunici si m-am gandit s-o reproduc aici pentru alti pitici.

A rather popular essay these days is Don't date a girl who travels (link in Sources). Some would use the word "viral" but I'm a mysophobe (aka germaphob) when it comes to travel.

As I’ve done in the past, I am publishing here my resolutions, mostly for this blog and wish all my readers La Multi Ani, Feliz Navidad (better late than never, right?) and A Happy New Year!

Zilele astea sarbatorim ziua Romaniei si-i un moment oportun sa sparg sirul de poeti strainezi si sa prezint o poezie romaneasca. Totusi n-o voi da cu poezii patriotice, fiindca feedback gen "bravo" sau "sa ne desteptam" ma lasa rece. Voi prezenta o poezie care-mi place. Si apropo, am urat Romaniei la multi ani in trecut.

We've met in a crowded room and her smile (or was it her ROTFL?) temporarily blinded me. I don't know why I find her so ubercool - maybe it's cuz I met her in the middle of winter and she’s such an all-around solar experience.

The way I experience love, or at least what most people mean by it, is dumb and I haze it. I get jealous, obsessive, cheesy. This kind of love is not enjoyable for me, likely not for the other and I try to avoid it, yet this is the kind most girls I had dated in the past seemed to want.

As expected, we owe most of our understanding of love to the Greeks, who were collecting words to describe it. Some scholars prefer to talk about four kinds, others five, others seven and some go as high as thirty. Here are the most used Greek terms:

• Storge (family affection)
• Philia (brotherly love, co-workers, soldiers, shared goal)
• Eros (romance, passion, desire, sex, physical, strange)
• Agape (god-love – unconditional, self-sacrificing)
• Ludus (flirting, playful, euphoria, uncommitted, non-punctual, believable lies, lovefool)
• Pragma (mutually beneficial, enduring – e.g., marriage)
• Mania (obsessive or possessive; adolescence)
• Philautia (self-respect)

Hendrick^2 & Slapion-Foote^2 (1985) found (hsf-gdisa) that men were more likely to show the ludic type of love, while women were more likely to be storgic or pragmatic – though their research was done on undergrad students.

Purple haze all in my brain
Lately things don't seem the same
Actin' funny but I don't know why
'Scuse me while I kiss the sky

In his 1973 book (.CA, .UK, .FR, .DE, .IT, .ES), John Lee compared styles of love to the color wheel, basing them on the aforementioned Greek words.

Lee’s 6 Styles of Loving

• Three primary styles:
  1. Eros – Loving an ideal person
  2. Ludos – Love as a game
  3. Storge – Love as friendship
• Three secondary styles:
  1. Mania (Eros + Ludos) – Obsessive love
  2. Pragma (Ludos + Storge) – Realistic and practical love
  3. Agape (Eros + Storge) – Selfless love

Now that we have the basic vocabulary, we should also know that there are a few theories of love.

theories

In general, theories moved from a clinical standpoint to a more psychology and socially-based stance.

• Freud’s theory of love centered around the need for an “ego ideal”, which is the person one aspires to be, patterned after those whom one holds in great respect. (On Narcissism, Bourdieu-Lacan, Freud-Lacan)
• Maslow takes the view that only those at the top of his pyramid (self-actualized) are capable of love (Heylighen, Francis). 
• Reik conceptualized a more altruistic, agape type of love in Being love. (Amir, Mathes)
• Zick Rubin proposed that romantic love is based on three elements: attachment (the need to receive care, approval and physical contact), caring (valuing the other person’s needs and happiness as much as your own), intimacy (sharing of thoughts, desires etc). Based on questionnaires, he determined liking vs loving.
• Elaine Hatfield felt that compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection and trust while passionate love is made of intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety and affection. According to her, passionate love is transitory, lasting 6-30 months and it arises when cultural expectations encourage falling in love, when the person meets your preconceived ideas of an ideal love, and when you experience heightened physiological arousal in the presence of the other person. It ideally leads to compassionate love.
• As psychology became more socially based, Sternberg’s (.CA, .UK, .FR, .DE, .IT, .ES) triangular theory of love emerged (not to be confused with Bizarre Love Triangle) and became dominant (w-triang). This theory, illustrated above, holds that “consummate love” is the most complete, as it involves Intimacy, Passion and Commitment. The other types of love involve a combination of only 2 or just one.

The Attachment Theory (w-att) is very important in psychology and it deals with patterns learned in early childhood and how they determine people’s response within relationships when hurt, separated from loved ones or perceiving a threat. Four different attachment classifications have been identified in children: secure attachment, anxious-ambivalent attachment, anxious-avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment.

If you can imagine the central point of the triangular theory – consummate love – being elevated (through the power of love, of course) out of its planar complacency to a pyramidal vertex and what do you get? Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, of course! :)

Purple haze all around
Don't know if I'm comin' up or down
Am I happy or in misery?
Whatever it is, that girl put a spell on me

Purple haze is not to be confused with Purple Rain.

LE: Two things: I know about the "languages of love" and I think it's BS - the main idea being that most women prefer "words", while men, actions, so there goes that "theory" and secondly, Hendrix probably talks about love as an excuse for getting high with "illegal dreams" which is not my thing.

Sources / More info: inbo-jealous, w-4l, w-gw4l, w-triang, w-att, w-rolo, w-losty, hsf-gdisa

Citesc ca peste 70% din parintii romani isi bat copiii, unii pana la moarte. Nu s-au facut studii, dar inclin sa cred ca un procent mult mai mic isi circumcid fetele. Parintii romani par sa prefere pruncuciderea cirmcumciziei.

Am avut nu demult treaba la Toronto Reference Library, adica mama soacra a tuturor bibliotecilor d-aici-sha, si m-am gandit sa va povestesc o chestie c-o blonda. Si cum / care este scurt-metrajul care-a inspirat 12 Monkeys.